Black Friday and the associated weekend has past and the first decorated houses start to appear. It must mean one thing that Christmas is fast approaching.
I love Christmas, I always have and I always will. However Christmas ten years ago changed the way I think and I thought I would tell my tale in the hope that maybe it can bring comfort to someone and help them in a positive way.
My mum passed away on Christmas morning back in 2008, we got the telephone call from the hospital at 4am that no one wants to get and I can remember driving there to be told my mum had passed a few minutes previously. That moment with my dad and my brother is one I will never forget. I was lucky I had family with me and lucky that we all had each other. That day passed in a blur, the children were younger and we wanted them to enjoy Christmas so we tried to make it as normal a day as we could. Christmas for us would never be the same.
The hype about Christmas adverts, shopping, presents is never ending but for me this isn’t what Christmas is about. Christmas doesn’t need to cost a fortune, a handmade card, a homemade jar of chutney, a daffodil bulb (they were my mum’s favourite!) in a pot, spending time together, a quiet moment reflecting on the true meaning of Christmas, a board game or just little family traditions. These are the things that make Christmas and create happy memories and for me are far more important than the materialistic ones. These are the things that make Christmas!! Count your blessings and look forward to the New Year with renewed vigour but never forget those memories!!
Ten years on, we still have daffodils in a pot each Christmas and that one pot sits near wherever we have our lunch. I know it isn’t mum but having that there brings some comfort to us. The robin in the garden, the feather drifting down from above, I am sure that these are signs being passed to us. So many people will be missing someone this year and nothing can change that but remember they wouldn’t want us to be miserable so if you can remember the happy times and the things that made your Christmas special and carry on making happy memories for the future generations.
What made me write this? I saw the advert that everyone is talking about. The advert that cost £50 to make and I think the words that made me think about our daffodils and things we do were “thank you for taking the time to remember me”. We all remember those, particularly at Christmas, that we have lost and we have our special way of remembering them. The advert made in 2014 by Phil Beastall has been viewed millions of times and is called “Love is a Gift”.
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